Personal space


It’s always nice to have someone in your life, but we all need our personal space. Everybody has the right to set appropriate boundaries and have them respected. Remember that not everyone needs and wants the same thing out of a relationship. People have different ideas of what is good and healthy, and it can take some negotiation before you both come to an agreement on how much personal space you should both have.

Try and redefine some space and habits as ‘yours’ as a person, as distinct from ‘yours’ as a couple. Try and make or keep something to yourself, that you can use to define who you are.

To spend all your time together is to risk getting tired of each other, and that will end your relationship. You need to give yourself some personal space through friends, a hobby, or just being away from your partner. Do you have any of your own interests, or do you find that you do everything together?

Be your own person and do your own thing sometimes.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If you spend all of your time together, you might find that the magic begins to fade rather quickly. Do you feel as if you do the same things, and spend the same time together, day after day after day? Spending all of your time together will eventually mean that you grow tired of one another and that you run out of things to say to one another.

Taking time for yourself keeps things fresh and new. Just think: you could see a dog walk on its hind legs at the park – something to talk about when you get home.

Everyone has reasons for why they are with the person they are with. Too much time together, and you can lose sight of that. If this is happening, then you need to evaluate your needs. Try and figure out what you want and what you need in order to get it. Having some personal space can remind you of why you fell in love in the first place.