Golden rule for relationships


The Golden Rule is to treat other people as you yourself would like to be treated. It seems like that would be a fairly simple rule to follow, don’t you think? We teach the Golden Rule to children who have just started school – it should be easy for an adult to follow it.

How many times have you heard of people yelling at retail workers for daring to be out of stock on an item of clothing? How many times have you seen people honking at other cars or motors in an angry way? (especially in Cebu or Manila!)

If you try to use the Golden Rule in your own life, you will most likely see a difference almost instantly. People do respond to kindness and empathy, even if we see that being mean gets results.

1. Be kind to staff. I know that it can be very frustrating when things are going slowly, and you need to get places. The temptation to take your frustrations out on the people around you can be very strong, but resist! Remember the golden rule, and remember that these people often have no more control over the issue than you. The staff are most likely doing everything they can to ensure that things get back to normal. More than that, they often have little or nothing to do with the delays or problems.

Remember the Golden Rule: would you like to be insulted and demeaned due to circumstances beyond your own control? Be nice to them; they are doing their best.

2. Be kind to strangers.

Remember this simple fact: travelling isn’t fun for anyone, especially long-term travel. Apply the golden rule to every interaction with the people around you. You would most likely want people to remember that you are likely tired, uncomfortable, cramped, and stressed – extend them the same courtesy.

This is particularly important when it comes to adults who are travelling with children. Think how uncomfortable and inconvenient travelling is when you are an adult. How do you think the child feels?

3. Be kind to your family. It can be easy to get frustrated, but remember the Golden Rule! When someone is ill, it can be very hard – that illness can bring financial problems, or that people now have to drive out of their way to visit, or need to make time to clear their house out, or need to make arrangements for in-home care, as well as doing all their normal responsibilities.

If it was your family member who needed care and your family member who you wanted to visit, then you would want compassion and understanding from your family. The same is true of other people: they will want understanding and compassion from you in turn.

4. Be kind to yourself.

Too often, people don’t treat themselves with the respect they deserve. They think that they haven’t done enough, or aren’t successful enough, or aren’t worthy of love. The truth of the matter is that they are enough by themselves. You are enough by yourself! Be kind to yourself. ( All of our spirits look the same to God, He doesn’t think of us as rich or poor!)

Following the Golden Rule should be one of the easiest things in the world. Unfortunately, we tend to be far less forgiving of some people than we do of others.

Following the Golden Rule would make the world an easier place to live in for everyone. We would all be much happier if we were treated properly, and also most likely feel better for treating others properly too.